Overcoming Doubts When Setting Up An Internet Business To Attract Wealth: The Two Arrows

 

two buddhas shoot arrows from bows signifying the extra pain of the second arrow we shoot at ourselves.

I understand the mix of excitement and uncertainty that comes with launching an internet business. It’s a significant step, filled with potential yet shadowed by doubts. Many entrepreneurs share this feeling. You’re not alone.

Before you dive in, I can’t stress enough the importance of having a clear vision for your business. This isn’t just about setting goals; it’s about understanding WHY you’re passionate about this venture. Your mission should resonate with your personal and business objectives; it will keep you anchored when times get tough.

A meticulous plan is your roadmap. I recommend breaking down your larger goals into manageable steps. This tactical approach makes the journey less overwhelming and helps you track progress, celebrate small wins, and stay motivated.

One common thread among founders is the fear of the unknown and the self-doubt that creeps in. “Am I capable?” “Is my idea good enough?” These doubts are usual, but they don’t have to become roadblocks. Let’s address this head-on with practical strategies that reinforce confidence and turn doubt into determination.

Have you ever been knocked down by an aspect of life you couldn’t predict or control? This is a common experience when embarking on setting up an Internet business. The ancient Buddhist parable of the two arrows gives a profound insight into handling the pain accompanying such unexpected challenges.

Buddha

The first arrow can be seen as the initial hardship or failure you encounter while establishing your online business. It could be a critical server failure during a product launch or a significant deal falling through. This arrow is an unavoidable part of the entrepreneurial experience.

Your response to these incidents, the second arrow, can be more harmful than the first. If you berate yourself for every hiccup or setback, you allow the second arrow to cause more pain. It’s critical to understand that this reaction is a choice. By acknowledging the existence of the second arrow, you can begin to catch yourself before launching it.

The second arrow of negative self-talk, doubt, and anger only magnifies the problem. Instead, please calmly focus on the first arrow and reflect on why it struck. What can be learned? Which new paths can be explored? This introspective approach conserves your mental energy and directs it toward solving the problem rather than exacerbating it.

My approach is not to deny the sting of the first arrow but to permit myself to feel it. This candid acknowledgement of my emotions creates space for healing and rational thinking. Mindful awareness is my shield against the second arrow, enabling me to control the situation more efficiently and move forward with clarity and determination.

Noticing the sting of the first arrow, that initial wave of discomfort is natural when stepping into the internet business arena. It might be worry over uncharted technology or anxiety about market reception.

But the second arrow? That’s the one you aim at yourself – the internal monologue of ‘I’m not capable enough’ or ‘I’m bound to fail.’

Remember, the second arrow is the one to watch. The self-inflicted wound of doubt and fear can fester if left unchecked.

This is not about ignoring pain or brushing aside genuine concerns. Rather, it’s about learning to FEEL the impact without letting it cascade into a volley of self-sabotage.

To catch yourself before releasing that second arrow, try these steps:

  • Pause when worry arises, take a breath and assess what’s factual versus what’s driven by fear.
  • Reflect. Why did that first arrow strike? Was it a mistake or a learning opportunity?
  • Choose your reaction. Decide on a constructive response instead of a destructive personal narrative.

The most successful business owners understand this principle. They know that setbacks are part of the journey, and they address them without resorting to self-blame.

Cultivating this level of emotional intelligence requires practice. It means being mindful of the immediate feelings and recognizing that you have the agency to respond, not react.

The payoff is substantial. It frees up space for strategic thinking, allows for better risk assessment, and ultimately cultivates an atmosphere conducive to success. That’s the sweet spot where fear turns into the fuel that drives you forward.

It’s human nature to feel the sting of the first arrow. But when you’re running an internet business, becoming mired in that pain can magnify every challenge. Building resilience is your shield against this. And how do you construct this shield? Through mindfulness.

Mindfulness is not just a buzzword; it’s a robust tool for any entrepreneur. It enables you to weather uncertainty and make decisions that aren’t clouded by panic or fear. It’s about being present in the moment, which can be incredibly powerful when every day brings new and unforeseen challenges.

Here are a few ways I have found mindfulness to be especially valuable:

Staying grounded during fluctuations in business metrics allows you to objectively analyze data without attaching to highs or lows.

Approaching negotiations and partnerships with a clear, unbiased mind can lead to more mutually beneficial outcomes.

Handling customer feedback with poise reduces reactionary decisions that could harm your business in the long term.

I have also seen how mindfulness acts as a silent partner in decision-making. It encourages patience and keeps impulsive reactions at bay, leading to more calculated and ultimately beneficial choices for the business.

Take, for instance, a situation where a marketing strategy fails to yield expected results. Mindfulness invites you to step back, assess the strategy from a fresh perspective, and adapt it without the second arrow of self-reproach shooting your confidence down.

Some successful entrepreneurs I know have adopted mindfulness as part of their routine. They start their day with meditation or take regular breaks to reset their focus. This discipline can align your energy with your business intentions, creating a fertile ground for growing wealth.

Now, it’s time to shift your attention from avoiding the negative to creating the positive. Your next step is transforming setbacks into opportunities.

As I venture into the complex world of internet business, I often remind myself that setbacks are just disguised opportunities. When facing the first arrow, whether it’s a failed marketing campaign or a product launch that didn’t quite hit the mark, it’s crucial not to let the second arrow – that instinctive negative reaction – take control.

Every obstacle in my path is a chance to learn and refine my strategies; this is the mindset I strive to maintain. The key is not allowing disappointment to ferment into self-blame or defeat. I seek to understand what went wrong, assess it without judgment, and move ahead with new insights.

Adopting a growth mindset, I view each unexpected hurdle as a puzzle to be solved, not a stop sign. I dissect the issue, gather feedback, and experiment with different approaches for next time. This way, my business evolves not despite the challenges but because of them.

By taking proactive steps, I cultivate resilience. I am ready for my business to recover and thrive in adversity. Even if a product flops or customer feedback stings, these experiences pave the way for innovation and deeper customer connections.

Success stories in the digital economy are often born from perseverance through tough times. Like those entrepreneurs, I focus on the silver linings and let my response to the first arrow propel me forward, not hold me back.

This mindset is the foundation I need as I transition into creating a sustainable business culture. It influences everything, from how I approach daily operations to how I foster team growth and support.

Establishing a business that is not only financially successful but also enriching for you and your team involves more than overcoming initial doubts. It requires fostering an environment where the wisdom of the two arrows is shared and practised.

Integrating mindfulness into your company’s core can have profound effects. By embedding this approach, you essentially equip every team member with the tools to handle their own first arrows effectively without letting the second arrow of negative reaction hinder progress.

Here are some tangible strategies to maintain a culture that prizes mindfulness:

– Regularly schedule team meetings focused on mental well-being and shared experiences of overcoming challenges.

– Encourage open communication, where team members can voice concerns and offer solutions without fear of judgment.

– Invest in training that helps your team develop resilience and a growth mindset, turning personal and business hurdles into opportunities for learning and development.

– Celebrate the wins, however small, to highlight the positive outcomes of facing and overcoming adversity.

Above all, remember that building a mindful business culture is an ongoing process. Periodic reflection and adaptation will ensure that the company stays on course and thrives.

A serne Buddha meditates in a beautiful mountain landscape at sunrise.

6 thoughts on “Overcoming Doubts When Setting Up An Internet Business To Attract Wealth: The Two Arrows”

  1. Aah, I love how you weave mindfulness into building an online business, Linden.  I resonate with everything you’ve said in this post because mindfulness is my jam too –  I practice meditation and mindfulness daily and run a Facebook group called Mindful Metamorphosis.

    Those tangible strategies you shared at the end of the post to create a culture of mindfulness are awesome. When I was in Corporate, I used to bring aspects of my spiritual practice to my team.   As I went through your list of strategies, I realised, unwittingly, I’ve been doing this with my business partner in my online business as well, even though we’ve only ever communicated online, never in person.

    It got me thinking, I guess you can only be who you are.  When you’re cultivating mindfulness in your own time, it naturally spills over into everything you do. The inner game creates your outer world.   As within so without.

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    • Hi Lauren,

      Thank you for this applause. I’ll join your FB group. I run 2 newsletters on LinkedIn of a spiritual/philosophical nature. 
      Great that such wisdom is ingrained through your commitment to mindfulness. Absolutely as above, below, too. The visible and are only separated by the veil of death and the porous membrane of the skin!

      Keep spilling over! Blessings for your spacious heart.❤️🌸

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  2. Starting an internet business is like deciding to learn to surf (forgive me, I’m from the Caribbean and sea and surf are life). You’re staring at this massive online ocean thinking, “Can I really ride these internet waves?” But then you talk about overcoming doubts with the whole two arrows concept, and it’s like someone just handed you a surfboard and said, “Bro, everyone wipes out at first. It’s all part of the game.”

    The first arrow, those initial doubts and fears, it’s like the ocean’s way of testing you, right? And then there’s the second arrow, the one we shoot ourselves by overthinking and getting all tangled up in our heads. It’s like deciding to sit on the beach because you’re scared of getting dunked by a wave. When it comes ot my online busiess I know exactly how this feels. You get imposter syndrome. That inner saboteur telling you that you’re not good enough, not smart enough, not emough, period.

    Your take on turning those doubts into stepping stones is spot on. It’s like looking at the waves and thinking, “Yeah, they might knock me down, but each time I’m gonna learn something new, get a bit better, and eventually, I’ll be riding them like a pro.”

    So, here’s a thought: When you’re out there building your internet business, how do you keep from shooting that second arrow? How do you shake off the wipeouts and keep paddling back out there?

    Would love to hear your thoughts, especially if you’ve got any epic success stories!

    Cheers 

    Kevon

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    • Hi Kevon, this is great!  My message came through, so I’m delighted. And thanks for spelling that out for other visitors, too. By the way, I’m a Brit, so most of my best friends are initially from Jamaica. It’s great to connect with you here.

      I’ve had great success in my life, mostly achieved by not shooting the second arrow and integrating via mindfulness and meditation, and just continuing to believe totally in myself and my vision. As a career mindful educator, I have taught this strategy to many students. Another aspect of this is having enough self-esteem to step into the limelight in your first-hand life, which I’m doing now, having empowered others for many years. It’s new for me, but I’m loving it and putting my happiness and satisfaction first. 

      There have been no huge financial successes yet (it’s only been two months) but there is a huge productive success – 3 websites indexed and ready to add products/services. And fantastic responses from my WA family and a few others.   I aim to use spiritual strategies to become a millionaire in 18 months! Talk about riding the waves like a pro! You can catch my latest chronicle here (different website – https://millionairemindsetroadmap.com)if you’re interested in following my progress. 

      Our moral duty to ourselves and our fellow-travellers is to find our true happiness and that’s exactly what I’m doing and loving every moment. You can read more about first-hand living here.

      Blessings and success to you Kevon

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  3. Hi Linden, another fantastic article, I always learn something from these and I love the arrows analogy. This makes so much sense to a lot of things that have happened over the years and not just with my online business!! 

    You perfectly explain in an easy to understand way, why we should pause, take a breath and think before moving on, this is something I have learned to do better as I have gotten older. Your points about building resilience and staying grounded through the highs and lows are certainly something I take away from this post to work on myself though.

    Thank you for another great article Linden, these are always great to read!

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    • Thanks Ryan. So kind. I’m glad you seem to get such value from my posts. You give me confidence that others will too.

      Yes, that second arrow. It shows how unconsciously we make ourselves suffer, doesn’t it? 

      Blessings and no suffering ahead!

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